Sometimes it can be hard to know what to do when someone is rude or disrespectful. Although you may be able to think of the right words, sometimes the words don’t seem to come out. Here are nine ways to deal with rude people if you feel overwhelmed.
1. “I don’t know why you think it’s okay for me to talk to you like this.” This reply lets the other person know that their words were inappropriate and uncalled for. It forces them to be honest about their actions and accept responsibility.
2. “What did you do to deserve this?” The response puts the ball back into their court and forces them to admit that their behavior is unacceptable, even if it’s not vocalized.
3. “I would appreciate if you kept all your comments to yourself.” This is a great way to let someone know they are not welcome without starting an argument or confrontation.
4. “Please stop being disrespectful; I won’t tolerate it.” This option is very helpful for rude people who sometimes need assistance in setting boundaries. This reinforces the idea of consequences for rude behavior and may deter people from doing it again.
5. “I don’t understand why this is okay – please change you tone.” This is an explicit request to them to change their language and attitude towards your, making it clear that they are not acceptable and will not be tolerated anymore.
6. “I’m sorry, but I didn’t understand what you said. Could you please repeat it?” This allows you to take some time to think about what was said and then respond with a suitable response or ignore the comment entirely depending on the situation.
7. “It is very rude of you to say such a thing.” It is much easier to diffuse tensions using a polite, gentle approach than aggressive ones. Plus, it shows respect for the other person involved.
8. “I’m not going into an argument right away.” This phrase shows that you are refusing to get into a fight, while still expressing your opinion on the matter. You can simply choose to not walk away (which sometimes is necessary).
9″ That comment doesn’t reflect who/what I am. This expression sends a strong message of self-respect and reaffirms your beliefs. It doesn’t require you to engage in an argument with someone who might have different views.
It can be difficult to deal with rude people. But having a few go-to responses can make it easier. You can choose from any of these options, or create your own. But remember to stand up for yourself and not let others dictate how you should be treated.